One night was searching for random movies on Hulu and found it while browsing. I watched it and entire documentary on Sister Helen amazed me on the idea of second chances and doing what is right. I also loved how real she was about everything in life and the pain she went through. The above video is only the first few minutes of it but you still feel her passion to help others; something we need more of in this world.
People ask me that question, or a question like that, all the time and I can only respond “It’s easy….It’s who I am”. For the last few years, I have been doing a lot of self-evaluation. Through realizations and things people have pointed out about me, I know that MAY have a detachment issue. I stress “may” because it depends on how you look at it.
I may or may not have an issue for two reasons; maybe three. I have noticed that with a change in life, whether a breakup or a move to a different area, I am able to pack up and go faster than most people I know. I believe, in part, because of how I was raised. Growing up, we moved more than a few times and have had to make new friends. And back then there were no cell phones and Facebook to keep in contact with people so easy lol.
When it comes to relationships, when they end, they end; and it is a reason why it ends. Evaluating myself, I have the mindset of when I was coming up and moving away from friends and knowing I probably will not see them again. Also, like I said before, it is a reason there was a breakup. I have a lot of friends that still talk to their Ex’s and I am so confused like “why, if you broke up?” It is not that I am careless/heartless (may be it is lol) but after a breakup, though I hold no harsh feelings, I do not feel obligated, in any instance, to do anything for an Ex unless it directly involves me. To me, it just isn’t logical. Furthermore, when I am with someone, I do not believe in controlling anybody. I don’t like the feeling of being controlled so why would I do the same. So, when someone decides to breakup, although I may not want it, I let them go. Besides, I feel that at a certain age, u should know what you want in life (http://donlucuis.wordpress.com/2011/12/02/decisions/).
I recently got a job promotion and I had to move. I packed up and moved in two weeks to a whole new area; I fit nearly everything I own in one car. I do not like to have a lot because I always “feel” I am going to be moving soon. For the few things that couldn’t fit in my car, I left behind. To move forward, you, sometimes, have to let go of a lot. That is probably a reason why I am not able to feel committed to people after a break up or with friends after moving away.
When I told people I was moving, my few friends’ first responses were “are you moving back home?”, “are you going to be close to family?”, etc. Of course not, I’m going because I got a better job and more money lol. I was raised to “do what is best for you.” I meet a lot of people to stay close to home or who are afraid to move far. They say they are not afraid but these are the same people who have, for example lived in the same house or city their entire life. I thank my dad for exposing us to different areas. It gave me and my older brother the ability to move to new areas easier and adapt to different kinds of people.
If my life was a movie, I don’t know what the title would be but the poster would be something like picture above. I find myself always moving on to something/place/one else and I always find myself alone; but not lonely (big difference). It is no surprise I prefer to be alone a lot.
Another reason I can move on so easily is because I have no regrets. As the saying goes, “never regret what once made you smile”. And when something unfortunately ends, like Al Pacino said in the Devil’s Advocate (one of the my favorite movies):
It’s a disappointment. We have them. All of us have them. You use it. You embrace it. And then you move on.
I have very few regrets in life, if any. However, I know the ones I may have are the ones I caused; not anybody else. I have never regretted meeting somebody. I take the goodness they gave me and I move on.
So, do I have a “detachment issue”? IDK #kanyeshrug
First of all, I find it sad when people criticize Gabby from their couch; and that goes for all professional athletes. Sarcastically speaking, how can you criticize the skill of a NBA player superstar, for example, while you have a beer gut and haven’t worked out in years?
With that being said, in this case with Gabrielle “Gabby” Douglas, again, it is sad when people attack someone when they have no standing to argue anything else. As the saying goes in a debate, “the moment your opponent criticizes you and not the argument, you won.” (And just as a disclaimer, I’m not quoting Gabby in the pic, though I hope she would).
I love this clip because of many reasons. First, Meryl Streep and how she played then Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher; Iron Lady was a beautiful movie (even though I’m a Social Democrat). Secondly, in the clip, she mentions, the biggest problem of our age; how people care more about “feelings”.
In dealing with people day to day and experiencing personal interactions, people care more about how you make them feel. Many people I know gauge their entire life on how they feel rather thinking about their actions or thinking about the best action to move forward. It is becoming so prevalent that it is now accepted and it is even used as a tool. Looking it from an external standpoint, you can tell almost anyone anything and as long as they “feel” good and get buttered up then it is fine. You hear it from politicians, customer service departments, preachers/speakers, friends, on dates, and even from loved ones.
When speaking about one’s emotions effecting their actions, it is quite odd to see people who are feeling upset about something, for example, throw away there normal way of thinking. Have you ever seen anybody act a certain way, or “outside their normal character”, because they feel angry or some type of way? It has the potential to cause great damage. I am not saying not to feel anything but your feelings shouldn’t dictate your feelings and actions. I have been guilty of knowing 1+1=2 but if I was angry or sad then 1+1=(whatever I feel it should); my emotions completely overshadowed my reason.
Some of my friends call me heartless for the way I think about emotions or dealing with life but I do not feel life stops for my emotions. The rent is due and bills need to be paid. I try not to let my emotions control what needs to be done in life (Click on below pic on blog about moving on):
Watching this is very sad. Cruelty to animals happens all the time unfortunately. Its like when people get outraged when someone gets caught embezzling money; what makes you think he/she is the only person doing it? Anyway, in my opinion, we must not have hatred toward one company for what happens a lot in regard to the cruelty that may occur during production. The employees should be more at fault than the company itself, especially a company that size. Now if the Headquarters knew then that’s a different story. My main concern is when the individuals of the company that makes apple products were protesting and committing suicide due to harsh conditions, we didn’t see the sells of the ipod/phone/pad (same thing but different sizes and people still buy it up) drop and outrage here in the US. We must not have a conditional love for life.
Read the Article at HuffingtonPost
Originally posted on Wonderful Buddha:
The real object of our love is not outside of us, the real object of our love is ourselves. We have to know how to love ourselves, know how to return to our true nature, to see the wholesome, the good, the true and the beautiful within us. Then we will be able to see that in others.
- Thich Nhat Hanh
Originally posted on Wonderful Buddha:
When one goes to Obaku temple in Kyoto he sees carved over the gate the words “The First Principle.” The letters are unusually large, and those who appreciate calligraphy always admire them as being a masterpiece. They were drawn by Kosen two hundred years ago.
When the master drew them he did so on paper, from which workmen made the larger carving in wood. As Kosen sketched the letters a bold pupil was with him who had made several gallons of ink for the calligraphy and who never failed to criticize his master’s work.
There is peace in the idea of doing nothing and being content with that. Our biggest problem is that many people no longer know how to relax and no longer realize the joy in letting the body and mind rest. So much good comes from this simple act.
Originally posted on Deep Thinkings:
Learn to let go of things in life, even the things you love.
My first impression to that statement is fear and refusal. It doesn’t make any sense. At least, it doesn’t feel like a natural thing to do, as if you almost have to learn the skill. We’re even encouraged in a way, to hold onto the things we have, and that shows me how backwards things are. Material things say nothing about a person. I could be brilliant and poor as a peasant (Mozart for example, didn’t know how to handle his money).
There is so much talk about the rich and poor and providing for the general welfare that it is depressing. It is depressing because it amazes me that providing for the general welfare needs to be discussed. During the budget debates of the last 4 to 5 years, I watched constant debates, for example, on funding education. My thought process was always, “why are they debating funding education (or whatever public sector)?” “Funding education, Social Security, helping the poor, etc. should be our number ONE priority #teamSocialDemocrat”
2012 has answered that question and many concerns about the condition of our Union. My conclusion is that it is in shambles. We are a nation-state where it is somehow accepted that the poor need less help than corporations and the rich. However, when i see who is elected to Congress, it proves my point:
President Barack Obama’s biggest problem has been Congress; and this is where our problem lies as a people wanting true change in United States of America. We need to remember that the Executive Branch is only a fraction of our government. Looking at all these (Super)PACs and getting people to vote this coming November is great but Congressional Elections are, to me, as equally important (Remember the Legislature is the FIRST Article in the Constitution).
It amazes me that the poor outnumber the rich but the rich are in power of a democratic nation-state. Through Local and Congressional Elections we can better battle these ridiculous voter laws that are spreading across the nation in an attempt to disenfranchise minorities and better assist our executive branch in a better change for the masses in our country. Like said in (http://diane-owens.com/2012/09/03/day-232-question-232/), we need to remember that helping people that need help is not a bad thing; giving is always good.
I feel we need to be reminded that Your/Our life, alone, isn’t the only life that needs respect/protecting. People spend so much time caring about one’s self or close family, we forget to show respect to the person next to you that you don’t know. Basically, “how could you hate someone you’ve never met” -Mr. J. Medeiros